Grown up friends

So every Tuesday, the husband and I have dinner with 4 of our closest couple friends. We alternate houses, who cooks, who brings the wine. It's awesome and we've been doing it for over a year. But our group is shrinking and that makes me sad. One of the couples is moving to Columbus- the move is official for June 15. In the past few years, this couple has easily become some of our closest friends. We hang out most weekends; dinner (and Game of Thrones or Justified) on random nights; the boys golf- the girls shop; countless bottles of wine and 6-packs of beer have been consumed. So needless to say- it's going to be really hard to say goodbye. And I definitely did not cry writing this. Yes, I know it's just Columbus...but from a 5 minute drive to a 2.5 hour one...well, we won't be able to do Tuesday night dinners any more.

But the point of this post...is that making new friends as adults is really damn hard.



College friends are easy to come by: roommates, everyone else living on your dorm floor, next door neighbors, coworkers, classmates. If you get lucky, some of those college friends end up in the same city as you after graduation. If you're luckier, you pick up some awesome coworkers to add to that group. Doug and I lucked out in both of these categories...some even falling into both categories for him.

But with one of our Tuesday night best friends moving, our core friend group is shrinking. We both have our separate friends- but having couple friends, where we all have things in common, well that's harder. Now, I would rather have fewer quality friends than a large number of fairweather friends.

Thing is, I love making new friends and getting to know new people, and would love to add more people to our friend group. But meeting new people is hard. It's like fricken dating for married couples. But a lot more complicated because there are 4 people who all have to get along in order to make the relationship work. And it's even better when the females can hang out together and the guys can hang together separately, as well as all together.



What about all of you? What have you found is the best way to make new friends, now that you're adults?